If You Had Real Options—Would You Still Watch Porn?

If you had options with beautiful women in real life—real attention, real intimacy, real connection—would you still watch porn?

There’s nothing inherently wrong with porn. But the wider the gap between your real-world options and your digital consumption, the more dystopian it becomes. The more you depend on porn for stimulation, the more it becomes a simulation. You don’t become better with women by watching more of them. You become better with women by engaging with them.

There’s a haunting moment in the Black Mirror episode Striking Vipers, where the character Danny is deep in the simulation. He’s in the fantasy—but look at his face: numb, disconnected, and alone. That’s not arousal. That’s sedation.

And that’s what unchecked porn use can become: Not desire, but disconnection. NeoChivalry exists to wake men up

The Industry Thrives on Your Failure

The porn and OnlyFans industries don’t want you to be attractive to women or confident. If you were, you wouldn’t need them. They profit from your failure to create connection. They need you disconnected, stagnant, and lonely—because otherwise you probably wouldn’t consume porn or OnlyFans; you’d go out and get a girlfriend or find a mate in real life.

Why Fund What Keeps You Small?

Every dollar you spend on porn supports an industry that doesn’t care about your growth. It doesn’t want you to build confidence, earn respect, or experience real sex and intimacy. It wants you weak, passive, and dependent. So ask yourself: Why support something that doesn’t want you to win? It’s no different from the cigarette industry. Just like tobacco companies profit from keeping you addicted and unhealthy, the porn industry profits from keeping you disconnected and unfulfilled.

NeoChivalry Is Not Anti-Porn—It’s Pro-Man

Watching porn doesn’t make you a bad man. This isn’t about shame. Porn can have artistic and emotional value. But NeoChivalry isn’t here to help you stay comfortable. It’s here to help you rise. Unlike the industry, we want you to win.

You’re Not the Customer—You’re the Laborer

Men paying for porn or OnlyFans are not just customers--they're participants in a hierarchy and most men are at the bottom. It’s not a free market of pleasure—it’s a pyramid of simulated intimacy. There is a famous image, a 1911 American cartoon caricature that critiques capitalism at its worst, showing how the system is built on the labor of many to the benefit of the few. Take a look at the classic anti-capitalist pyramid. Now look at the NeoChivalry Porn Pyramid side by side.

Men who are hooked on porn lose time, money, and confidence while those at the top rake in cash, grow social status, and attract real-world partners.

The structure hasn’t changed—just the currency. Instead of labor, it’s lust. Instead of factories, it’s fantasy. But the outcome is the same: men stuck on the bottom while the system feeds on their hunger.

This isn’t about demonizing or throwing shade at women who work in the industry. In fact, Neochivalry is adamantly against that. Many—like Sophie Rain and others—are simply capitalizing on a system that rewards beauty and performance. NeoChivalry agrees these women are extremely beautiful and stunning, fully recognizes their success, applauds their hustle, and holds no judgment. But it does challenge the men who fund that system to ask themselves: is this helping me become the man I want to be?

NeoChivalry doesn’t want to help you climb to the top of this pyramid—it wants to help you climb out of it completely. The goal isn’t simulated success. The goal is real-world connection, confidence, and self-respect.

Sex Is Natural—But It’s Not Supreme

Desire is biological. Sex is part of life. But think about nature. National Geographic doesn’t glorify sex as the highest act in the animal kingdom. Yet porn elevates sex as the ultimate goal of life—as if it’s the thing everything else revolves around. Sex shouldn’t be worshipped. It should be integrated into a meaningful life full of music, hanging out with friends, enjoying scenic hikes, etc.

The Visual Overload Makes You Fragile

Have you ever met someone who wasn't that attractive in photos, but became incredibly sexy the more you got to know them? That’s real chemistry—based on energy, vibe, and connection. Porn turns visuals into 99% of sexual chemistry. In real life, visuals are only a fraction of what makes someone attractive. Overhyping looks and visuals makes women feel unreachable and men feel unworthy. This contributes to how men feel intimidated near beautiful looking women because of this syndrome of overhyping looks.

Porn Is the Knockoff, Not the Real Thing

Like a fake Rolex or Ferrari replica, porn may look like the real thing, but it doesn’t drive the same. Visuals alone do not equal quality. In porn, visuals are treated as the only standard of a woman’s attractiveness and sexual value. But real sex is not about visuals alone—it's about energy, tension, and presence.

Porn puts you behind the glass—watching what you can’t touch.

Like a zoo animal being taunted with food just out of reach, every moan, every perfect body is a reminder of what you’re not living. You’re not in it. You’re watching it. You become the caged. You pace. You ache. You growl in longing.For the woman, the screen is a shield—protecting her from the gaze.
For the man, the screen is not protection—it’s a barrier. A wall he cannot cross.

Like a gorilla clawing at the glass while an onlooker waves food he’ll never taste, porn shows you what you want—then denies you access. Every scripted moment is not a gift—it’s a taunt.

What kind of real man allows himself to be taunted by a screen?
To sit behind glass and accept it?
To growl at a world he’s chosen not to enter?

And let’s be clear—this cage isn’t built by women. Women are not to blame. The cage is built by a system that turns your desire into a commodity, and by your own choice to stay behind the glass.

The more men consume porn, the more they pace. The more they settle into the cage.
Because in the end—it’s not the woman who’s caged.

It’s the man.

Real Femininity Doesn’t Open for Spectators

Real feminine energy responds to presence and action—not to passivity. What you see on the screen is a performance, not a direct response to you and your energy. No matter how beautiful she is, it’s not real if she doesn’t even know you exist.

Yes, Women Want to Be Desired—But Not by a Ghost

Women want to be desired, but not because you liked her photo, or because you stared at porn long enough to associate her body with every fantasy you've ever had. They want to be desired in person—by a man who is there, not one hiding behind a screen.

Porn Overrates You—NeoChivalry Challenges You

Porn lets men feel sexually validated by women they haven’t earned. That’s fake confidence. Unless you can actually get women like that in real life, porn gives you the illusion of being sexually desirable without the growth it takes to become that man. That means porn is overrating you.

Don’t let yourself be sexually overrated by fake validation.

The Rule of NeoChivalry

So here’s the NeoChivalry way, our rule of thumb:

Don’t consume porn unless you’re sure you could get that kind of sex in real life.

Because if you can’t, then every view, every click, every dollar is you reinforcing the very gap that keeps you behind.
To revisit our opening question, if you have options with beautiful women in real life and you still want to watch porn, then do so.

There’s nothing wrong with watching porn if that’s the path you choose. And for many men who are deeply sexually frustrated and have no outlet, using porn as a form of release is completely valid. No one should dismiss that. It’s real, human, and understandable.

But NeoChivalry isn’t about what’s valid—it’s about what builds you. We’re not here to judge you. We’re here to remind you: you were meant for more than just release. You were meant for real connection, earned attraction, and deep presence.

And if porn has been problematic for you, NeoChivalry wants you to be strong, successful, respected. That begins with stepping out from behind the screen.

High-Value Men Don’t Hide

A high-value man wants to be seen in the world, felt, and respected in real life. He shows up. He leads. He earns presence and desire. He doesn’t hide in the shadows of fantasy. He doesn’t press his face to the glass like a spectator. He shatters it—and steps into the arena.
Because in a world full of chaos, distraction, and temptation...

NeoChivalry chooses class over chaos.